– Eph 2:5,8 – “by grace you have been saved through faith.”
– 2 Tim 1:9 – “He saved us and called us through grace and not by virtue of our own works outside of His grace.”
– Titus 3:5 – “He saved us in virtue of His own mercy, and not by our deeds.”Present
– 2 Cor 2:15 – “For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved.
– Phil 2:12 – “we are working out our salvation through fear and trembling.”
– 1 Peter 1:9 – “you obtain the salvation of your souls as the outcome of your faith.”Future
– Rom 5:9-10 – “since we are justified by His blood, we shall be saved.”
– 2 Tim 2:11-12 – “if we endure, we shall also reign with Him.”
– Acts 15:11 – “we believe that we shall be saved through the grace of the Lord Jesus.”
We can see from the verses above, that there is a progression of salvation in Scripture. With this being said, the Bible also teaches that salvation can be lost once gained.
- “I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.” – 1 Cor 9:27
- “Now, brothers, I want to remind you of the gospel I preached to you, which you received and on which you have taken your stand. By this gospel you are saved, if you hold firmly to the word I preached to you. Otherwise, you have believed in vain.” – 1 Cor 15: 1-2
- “The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons.” – 1 Tim 4:1
- “It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age, if they fall away, to be brought back to repentance, because to their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace.” – Heb 6:4-6
Now, someone might ask why a Catholic wouldn’t fall into despair if we don’t have a certain assurance of salvation. But, a Catholic should neither despair that God will abandon us (knowing He would never abandon us) but rather we wouldn’t presume that God will save us if we decide we don’t want Him to.
Right now, because I know I am in the state of grace, if I were to die, I can have a “moral assurance” I would go to heaven. But, I cannot say the same thing for my future state. This does not lead me to despair – but to rightly hope in God’s salvation for me.
So, I can say that Jesus has given me His divine grace and because I have responded in faith, and am in the state of grace = I am saved.
The next question centered on explaining the faith. This won’t be learned overnight. I once again suggest that you continue to study. There are great books that you can buy or check out here at St. Mary’s library. For a list of books I suggest, look here. You can also come to classes at St. Mary’s, come talk to me or another staff member, or even start reading some great Catholic websites, like the ones above. But, be patient with yourself. You didn’t learn English overnight and learning about God and His Church is a life-long process. I am glad to see the desire to learn more.
Second, I would suggest that the two of you start to do some homework into the Church together (if he is willing) and that you continue to share with him what you learn about. Let the truth of God do its work. If it is God’s will that your boyfriend ever become Catholic, then trust that it will happen in its own time. Your job is to know your faith and then share it with others out of love. Let God do the heavy lifting here.
- Frequent the Sacraments. You will find no greater source of strength and grace.
- Pray daily. Pray specifically for God’s will to be done in your boyfriend’s life.
- Study, learn, discuss.
- Offer to buy him resources (books, CDs, etc).
- Invite him to events at church.
- Work on any vices/sins/bad habits you may have.
- Discuss whether he would be interested in attending RCIA classes and then go with him.
- Talk to him about how your Jesus and your Catholic faith are important to you and how a relationship with Christ has changed your life.
I hope this helps. May God Bless you both.