“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” – St. Thomas Aquinas
We all talk about the importance of friendship, but how exactly do we nurture it? In this busy world, we encounter people all. day. long. But just because we’re surrounded by people doesn’t mean we’re rocking the friendship role. How can we do better? How can we grow? How can we help build Godly friendships that are worth keeping for a lifetime? Madeline Hill gives us some great tips:
Be authentic and vulnerable.
Friendships should be a place where you are able to be yourself–where you can share your heart, your worries, your joys, your heartaches, your prayers, and much more. It should be a safe place where you journey alongside another person–striving for heaven. A virtuous friendship requires both people to be fully themselves.
Be present to each other.
We live in a world where it is easy to hide behind a phone screen, computer, or all of our other commitments. For a real, lasting, deep friendship, one must be willing to put the phone down- to set aside the other obligations–to encounter your friend without distraction. It is in that presence that you are able to grow in deeper friendship with one another.
Initiate & Commit.
Don’t be afraid to initiate hangouts with your friends. Our schedules are all busy and it takes time and effort to have quality time with friends. Be willing to step out and ask to hang out. With that, don’t hesitate on committing to a friend too. Don’t wait around wondering if something else will pop up. Commit to each other and the friendship.
Go deep. Ask bold questions.
Ask how prayer is going? What is Jesus telling them? How is school? What is the hardest thing going on? It’s easy to ask the simple questions, to just hit the surface. But as a friend, really invest deeply in them. Invest in their heart, journey with them. Know the good and the bad.
Pray for and with each other.
Place your friendship deeply in the Father. Pray with and for one another. Ask for their intentions. Take them to prayer with you. And don’t forget to follow up with your friend and their intentions.
What do you think? Have any tips to share with us on building authentic friendship? We’d love to hear them!